Every therapist seems to tell you the same thing – use self-regulation and grounding techniques such as slowing your breathing, mindfulness, think of a stop sign before acting, etc. Supposedly these techniques work, so why don’t they seem to be making a difference for me? It can get very frustrating when you do what someone […]

We all get angry and scared. We all have a variety of emotions that we feel and how we express those feelings indicates “who we are.” No. I completely disagree with this way of thinking. The problem with this way of thinking is we make ourselves helpless. We believe we cannot change. You didn’t always […]

Nobody wants to feel angry, right? We learn to use all these anger management skills in order to prevent ourselves from getting out of control. On the other hand, anger is an acceptable emotion and better to feel angry than sad, right? This puts us in a bit of a bind. It’s ok to feel […]

Have you been searching the internet trying to find out what’s “wrong” with you? Maybe other people have pointed things out about how you’ve changed. Maybe you fought it for a long time, but now are starting to think you have changed and don’t like who you’ve become. When we live life believing something is […]