The holidays are often called “the most wonderful time of the year.” But for many people, they can also bring stress, worry, and even sadness. Between family plans, busy schedules, and high expectations, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
As a therapist, I want you to know: it’s okay to feel this way. You don’t have to love every moment of the season to enjoy it. Here are some gentle ways to take care of yourself and manage holiday stress.
1. Keep Your Expectations Real
We often imagine the holidays as perfect — smiling families, clean houses, and peaceful dinners. But real life is messy, and that’s okay. Try to focus on what matters most to you, not what looks perfect.
Tip:
Ask yourself, “What do I really want to remember from this holiday?” Then let go of the rest.
2. Make Time to Rest
The holidays can be full of noise, plans, and people. You might feel like you have to say “yes” to everything, but rest is important too. Taking breaks helps your body and mind stay calm.
Tip:
Even 10 minutes of quiet , like drinking tea, taking a walk, or reading; they can help you feel grounde
3. Keep Boundaries with Family
Sometimes, being around family can bring stress or old feelings. You can still show love while also taking care of yourself.
Tip:
It’s okay to say “no” to things that feel too hard. For example:
“I’d love to join for dinner, but I’m going to skip the late-night games so I can rest.”
4. Spend Within Your Means
Money stress can grow during the holidays. Gifts and travel can add up fast. Remember — love isn’t about spending the most, it’s about showing you care.
Tip:
Give simple gifts like a handwritten note, baked cookies, or shared time. Those mean just as much.
5. Take Care of Your Body
Your body feels stress, too! Sleep, movement, and balanced meals help you feel stronger inside and out.
Tip:
Go for a short walk, stretch, or dance to your favorite song. Moving your body helps your brain relax.
6. Ask for Help if You Need It
If you’re feeling sad, anxious, or lonely this season, it’s okay to reach out. Talk with a friend, family member, or therapist. You don’t have to carry everything alone.
Tip:
Saying “I’m struggling right now” doesn’t make you weak — it makes you human.
A Therapist’s Reminder
You don’t need to have a perfect holiday. You just need to show up as yourself — one breath, one moment at a time. Be gentle with yourself, and remember: the holidays are about connection, not perfection.
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